Pardon the corny headline but bear with me while I explain my new found wisdom. Btw, this wisdom I speak of is self-proclaimed, there is no certificate or degree, just a cute girl with a gorgeous smile to come home to everyday. I do however believe that in this world we live in, with average marriage costs sky rocketing and relationships deteriorating negatively at just that pace, the discourse around marriage warrants a change.
Now I know what you are thinking. “Son just wait a few years you will understand and be right there with us” is what I often here. My response to which is I agree, I just really really do not want to be there. I do not want a relationship that has defined success by finding the perfect blend of not stepping on the other’s nerves and finding just enough wiggle room to get “space”. What we talk about more than anything is how two can merge lives at the optimum level of convenience and all I am saying is that this philosophy isn’t exactly leading us to Shangri-la.
Tracy, my wife and the cute girl with the gorgeous smile I spoke of earlier, can be a real inconvenience, and before you question my sanity for spewing this fact publicly please hear me out on why it does not matter. Let’s go down the marital checklist shall we. Tracy and I do not agree about finances, our religious beliefs differ and our personal interests gel like oil and water. Disaster waiting to happen right?….Wrong!
Now don’t get me wrong, I have not mastered the art of Zen to which these things do not affect me. I am just saying that it does not factor into my sense of relationship bliss and here is why. The same girl that I can’t seem to get on the same page with, melts my heart every time I look at her loving face. The same girl that nags me takes me to the emergency room when I get a paper cut and most importantly the same girl that asks me to cut cable (i.e kill myself) adds a sense of elegance and priceless poise at the most challenging of times.
So while these attributes are not listed in the amazon bestselling “Seven principles of Marriages” 10th edition, it’s what I have and it’s what I choose to take to the bank. So forgive us if u see Tracy watching a game she has no interest watching or if you see me singing “alleluia” louder than anyone at the church I did not want to go to. My contention is that a relationship is not about compromise and convenience but about all the reasons why those things do not matter.